Accepting what is...

Nowadays, there are a lot of things that we encounter and experience that we don't know whether we can handle it.
A friend of mind once told me to just accept that thing and don't try to understand it. At first it seems like a difficult thing to do but eventually it manages to work on things.


Trying to accept anything that happen then move on is easy to say. Trying to understand what happened seems to be the difficult part.


In an instance of a break-up, understanding what happened is easy but accepting what just happened is difficult because you are in a stage of denying all things that you don't understand and trying to accept that it's over.


The technique of accepting things without understanding it will not be effective to everyone but it's sure that it'll make things a li'l less painful. We all know that loving and then losing someone is very hard and you need to understand what happened, but always remember that there's always a reason why it happened (somewhere in the middle things didn't go well). So from that stand point you just let it be and accept things as it is. It'll take time but everything will seem to fall into places after some time. Remember that the things that you don't know won't hurt you. So don't let yourself be in a point of knowing everything because it you might end up knowing things that's hard to accept.

One...

..loving someone means having to accept all the chapters of her past. Some people are too open about their past and they let you know so that you won't be in a awkward situation when circumstances occur. Stuff like letting you know about his/her ex. Stories of events in the past and everything or something about her past.

I'm not sure if this applies to everyone but i guess some can relate that there will always be "ONE" person or event or something from her that would make you so mad or jealous about.

If that "one" is a person; maybe her ex, her bestfriend or just a regular close friend. Deep in your heart you knew and feel that there's no more special between her and that someone but the moment you knew that she and that "one" saw each other or talk to each other, you feel a li'l something.

If that "one" is an event; maybe an event where she and that other person shared or experienced together. Everytime you hear or see that event (e.g. Concert) you feel a li'l something.

Im not sure if what you feel is jealousy or just plain insecurity but nevertheless it would make you think deeper and sigh a little. Maybe this is just one of those stuff where you knew that you trust and love her but sometimes the heart have its mind of its own.. .sometimes...

Time ...

.. one of the things we love to have is time.. lots of time. certain people sometimes need different kinds of time in a given day - quality time with a special someone, with family and alone. For me the best gift that you could give to someone that I think everyone sometimes forget to appreciate is TIME. Imagine giving someone part of your day.

When it comes to loving someone, you can always tell that you really love someone if you are willing to give time. Making sure that you have the best time with someone is not that of an effort. It doesn't matter if it's a minute or half a day as long as you get out of your way just to spend time to someone.

Giving time is also setting priorities. It loving is part of giving time then being with someone is getting out of your boundaries and setting your priorities right. Always remember that time spent is time wasted. A minute of holding back is a lifetime of regret.