it's hard to be friends with your Ex..

It's hard to be friends with your Ex. I know some people will not agree with this. For me, it's hard to be friends with your ex because of some factors. First, when your with contact with your past, one of you might think that there is a possibility of a second chance. One of you would assume that maybe the other half is giving it a chance to see if it would probably be sweeter the second time around. Second, because of the relationship that both of you had before, it's very hard to act normal when you're together. It's sometimes very hard for a boy to keep his hand to himself. He often will hold her hand or doing the things that he's used of. Like holding her face, her hair and some sweet things that he's doing before. And because the girl is comfortable of those things because of the past, the boy would probably think that it's alright to keep on doing those things. It would create a conflict if the boy would take to another level and the girl is just being nice.

Sometimes it's very nice to keep friends with your ex but it's not very healthy if one of you is still holding on. One of you can't move on because of the fact the every time you meet or talk, one of you would fall all over again.

Don't do things...

Don't do things that are not natural to you...

I guessed some boys do things that are not natural to them. For example, he would most likely fetch a girl everyday just to win her heart. He would wait for hours just to fetch her home. Some guys even do make little notes just to express his feelings. That is some of the things boys do even if they're not used to those things. The point is some boys do some peculiar things that are not natural to them just to make an expression. And when the time that they are already together, the boy would stop doing the things that the girl is used to. The boy would stop fetching her everyday because he had enough of it but the girl is used to it and expecting it everyday, and that's where the conflict begins. Girls are so emotional that little things do matter for them.

Cheaters...

Are cheaters born cheaters? Or do certain situations cause people to cheat? Probably a little bit of both.

In my opinion here are some situations that make people cheat:

Bored

I'd say this is the most common reason that people cheat. It's tough to keep that edge throughout a relationship. Things start off grand and then level off and then you both realize that it's still real life. You tend to do things for the sake of doing it. You'll text her good morning because you needed to not because you wanted to. When you meet someone else, that inaugural excitement of a new relationship kicks back in.

Confusion

Sometimes life or a particular situation can get to you. When the perfect storm of confusion is going on in your head, you make mistakes. If you're in a situation that you don't know what to do, just sit down and think about it. Don't make a move and make mistake after another mistake.

Nurturing

If someone is mistreating you, then your first instinct is to get away from him or her. But sometimes it's not that simple-maybe you are raising kids together. If you feel trapped in a bad relationship, it's only natural that you will run to the open arms of a person who treats you well. You'll look for someone who'd take care of you that way you wanted to be.

Revenge

This is quite simple- an eye for an eye. Cheat on them if they cheat on you. If they continuously hurt you or abuse you in some way, you do it to get them back.

Dependence

At first glance, cheating seems like independent behavior. It could be interpreted as doing what you want, when you want. But cheating is a dependent behavior. A cheater is dependent because they are not strong enough to break up with their significant other in order to get with the new person.

Because They Let You

If any girl ever cheated on me, I'd break up with her immediately. Forgiving a cheater is putting up with it, and starts a vicious cycle. That person who cheated may lose respect for you and might continue to cheat-because they know they can get away with it, because you'll continue to take them back.

Confirmation of Attractiveness

Sometimes when you're in a long relationship, or if your significant other is taking you for granted, you begin to wonder if you're still attractive. Perhaps, because you were out on the dating circuit, you felt more attractive when you were single. If you have an affair, you've proven that a new person can be attracted to you.

The Thrill

Some people just enjoy the thrill of cheating: running around secretly, risking getting caught, and creating thrilling moments with a forbidden romance.

They Don't Consider It Cheating, Even Though You Might

Relationships have that gray area, usually right before you become exclusive. He thinks date #4 is when you're "together," and you think date #2 is when you're "together." If you haven't talked about exclusivity, someone may think they are well within their rights to see other people, even though the other person in the relationship may not.

Is it natural to have temptation, or is temptation a sign that the relationship is losing its fire? What reasons would you add to this list, and do you disagree with any? If you've ever cheated, why did you do it? Could you forgive a cheater? If you are single, but seeing a person who is in a committed relationship, does that make you a cheater?