pride...

sometimes it helps to show that your weak…

it helps when you show or tell a person that you need and love them once in a while…

love is a painful risk… sometimes you end up with the wrong decision but it feels good that even the result is bad, you know deep inside that you did your best and never held back on your feelings because of your pride…
It's better to lose our pride to the one we love rather than losing the one we love because of our stupid pride...

all or nothing...

People are so judgemental… they tend to judged other people about the way they move and act towards someone.. sometimes we do things because it’s a nice feeling and we find happiness in it.. but we cant stop other people to judge what they see.. we know that sometimes we do things even if we are aware that others think of it as wrong…

Just always learn from our mistakes… friends are there to help even in their most peculiar way.. As always… Impossible it may seems in most cases but God has his reason why he put our Mind above our Heart.. Maybe it’s because he wants us to think what we feel.. bear in mind that there’s always time for everything.. just don’t let go of our dream.. it helps us to move forward.. dont forget to thank someone even if hshe cause you pain.. because sometimes you made others stronger by breaking their heart.

a rose is a rose is a rose…. but a rose will never be a rose without the thorns…

people change...

"you can’t afford to have new friends in the expense of the old once…"

people tend to say something just to make someone feel good.. there are times that it is good but you have to bear in mind the it’s the feeling of the person your playing.. sometimes you have to say what he must know for her to grow and know that she is wrong about something… Time change and so are we….

fools rush in..

This one is an entry in my friendster blog way back 2006.

don’t go into a relationship for the sake of… sometimes we misinterpret the feeling because of constant contacts.. you will know if you love somebody if you give time.. for time can never be return to you.. even if everything seems to be going the right way, you will know if you love someone if she is always there is good times and in bad… let it be.. don’t make yourself fall in love with a person just because you like her… everything happens for a reason..

don't rush into fallin’ in love, for love never runs out! even if they mock you cause your single…

boys & girls

Boys can manage to make a girl fall in love even if she has no idea what he looks like. . Boys will tell girls what they want to hear. Some boys can manage to tell a girl that she'll always be there for here even if he can't. Tell her things that we know can make her bones shiver . Tell her that you're thinking of her from the think you woke up till you've closed your eyes. Even some corny lines might work depending on how and when it's delivered. Some girls fall in love even with their eyes shut.

Girls always make it a point to look good. Some boys will definitely go for good looks that a great attitude. If a friend will tell you that he'll be introducing you a girl friend, often that not, your first question is about her physical aspects. If a boy has a textmate or a phonepal, he'll be very eager to meet her just not to waste time. A tight curve is more attractive than a 180 IQ. A killer smile is very hard to resist than a girl that is willing to wash your clothes.

Boys fall in love with their eyes while girls fall with their ears.

why does it always be a mixture?!

Maybe some of always ask this question.. Why?!

Why does it always be a mixture of emotion every time..? When we're in love, we feel happy but afraid... Happy that finally someone is always there for us but afraid that it will not last that long. When we graduated from college we felt fulfilled but uncertain. Fulfilled because finally we've finished studying but uncertain because we don't know what is there for us in the open.

Maybe that is the irony of life. It's always be a mixture to make us think of things and make the best of everything. We feel happy in a way but afraid in many ways. Maybe it's a way to make an effort in our relationship to keep it happy. Thinking of that happiness won't last long will eventually make us do the best of each moment.

So the next time you feel the mixture, make the best of the better feeling because there's nothing you can do about it. We might not notice but maybe there is always a rainbow during the rain.

moving on...

Moving on from an unwanted relationship maybe is one of the hardest thing we can experience in a lifetime. We can live with the thought of losing someone but definitely it'll take time. They same that we must not give everything in every relationship so that you can easily move on if ever it wouldn't work out right. I guessed this thought of not giving everything in a relationship is unfair. If ever you just gave your 50% in a relationship, wouldn't it be unfair thinking that the other half might gave her all?! Would it be the reason why the relationship didn't turn right because you're holding back?

When you love, love like you're not been hurt before. Make time like there's no tomorrow. And if ever you gave everything and still it didn't work like you expected it, then at least it's easier for you to think that you gave your 100%. And from your broken pieces of your heart you'll take the leverage to move on. At least when you're alone and think of the memories, it's easier to think that maybe it's her fault because you knew for a fact that you've given you're 100%. It's alright to cry you heart out because it will help a lot especially if your friend is just listening [no advise to give?!]. Advices are not helpful when you're venting out because it will make you confuse.

You don't need to get over her just to move on. Getting through the day without the toughs of him, smiling whenever you passed by a memory, not reacting every time you hear her name, finding time to appreciate what other people are doing for you. I guess these are few of the things you can say that you're in the process of moving on..

Make every moment an opportunity to move on. If someone will invite you to go out, then go out with her. It doesn't mean that you'll end up with him. At least with that thought, you're trying to be happy.

It's not easy to move on especially when almost everything will remind you of her. Just think of the thought that she might not be crying her heart out, maybe she is out with someone. Always bear in mind that maybe you're not her everything like what she is to you.

But then again at the end of the day, TIME can heal of all wounds. Even if you're invincible or just an emotional fool.

"what if?" vs. "what is.."

Basically we have this very very simple questions in our mind but will even take a lifetime to answer it.

"What if?" -- When we do something that involves our decision is an instant we leave this question at the back of our mind... Choosing someone over the other.. Making this instead of that.. Going here and not there.. Almost all decisions we make will leave us with this question..

Some people will tell us to think everything a million times before making a move.. Even if you'll take a lifetime to think of over things, the question will always be there.

"What is.." -- I guess this phrase will make us feel good. We choose to do "what is..." good for us, "what is.." happiness, "what is.." there for me, etc etc etc...

Others will always remind us of always everything "what is...". To stop pretending that we know love but to feel "what is.." love. To stop living in a fantasy and start living "what is..." life.

Maybe the big difference of the two is how you treat them in every event. If you choose something over the other and you think what will the other will fell, then obviously you'll be bothered by the thought of "WHAT IF?" But if you will think "WHAT IS.." good for that other person, then you're being honest to yourself.

Beautifully Imperfect.

Today is good Friday and I open my facebook account, Sir Dexter Gabica posted a video with a wife talking in her husband funeral mass.

She started her message by telling the people that she will not say praise to her husband because lots of it was already been said by other friends, instead she reminisced about the sound of his snoring in the morning. On how her husband even was bothered by his own noise.

The message of the video simply implies that at the end of the day it's not the great things he/she did that you remember the most. It's the little things that would make you close your eyes and smile. At the end of the road you won't smile at the thought that he/she moved a mountain but it's the peculiar things that made him/her moved that mountain.

You can't even imagine the things you'd give up just to hear that snoring again, those little imperfection that make it perfect for you. It's the indifference's that would make us ask for more.

Hoping this Good Friday we won't forget to appreciate our beautifully imperfect someone...

just the thought of fallin'...

Falling in love maybe is the best feeling we can experience.. being in that state can generate a lot of good and bad feeling. If you're a boy and you're still courting, the feeling of excitement and anticipation is there. When you admire someone, the feeling of contentment is there.

you can feel also everything, even something you cant explain. Maybe the feeling that we can associate being in love is being happy. Some people are not afraid to love but they are afraid to be happy. They know that love is always there but being happy is just temporary. When you love, you always make sure that the other half is happier than you. When things go wrong and you're not happy anymore, you blaim love for it. Being happy is just a temporary feeling when we love.

Just keep in mind that when being in love is being flexible. You encounter things you wont expect and feel things you won't even imagine. If you think that loving makes us happy then you're wrong. Loving makes us strong and weak at the same time.

Only love gives us a good feeling when we cry and only love knows why. So don't fall in love because you're happy but fall in love because you're ready. Ready to do things you don't like, go places you're scared of, eat food you don't love, make a rainbow before the rain.

Be careful of the thought that you're falling in love because you won't understand every little thing you feel until it's over.

the oNe that got away!

Everyone of us believe that even if we are with the one we love right now there's always a someone that got away. It's not because you have the right love on a wrong time but it's because part of you is not ready yet.
She might be everything that you ever wanted during that time but the problem is you're not ready to commit. She's almost perfect but you're too scared to hurt her or hurt yourself.

And when the time is right and you're ready for anything, that someone got away. You might be with someone whom you are very very happy but part of you will always be asking the biggest question.."What if?"

What if that time you're ready?
What if right now that i'm ready i'm still with her?
What if that time i'm ready but i'm just to scared to commit?

Every lifetime there is always someone that got away....